Category Archives: Prep groups

Last prep group

We’ve had our last prep group and even though, I will miss having these groups, I am so glad that I have my weekends back. Now we are waiting for a social worker to be allocated to us which should take a couple of weeks. Without knowing it, I think I was expecting this whole process to take over my life. I only realised that when the local authority said goodbye, good luck and wait to hear from us and you’re back in real life. I thought that the process would consume you and it would be a kind of ‘project’ in which you expect to focus on. In reality, your life goes on, knowing that in the background, the next step is there somewhere in the shadows, ready to pop out again when the social worker gets in touch. I wonder if this is how it’s going to be for the rest of the assessment period?

Which brings me neatly onto the next steps of the process. Once we get the social worker allocated, I think we would start the home study which is about 6 months of hard-core vists to your house and for the SW to get to know you. It’s an interesting and slightly terrifying idea but hopefully, the idea of it is more scary than it actually is.

So my life goes on, and like Penelope, the faithful wife of Odysseus, I shall wait patiently for the assessment period to begin. I just hope it won’t be 20 years though!*

*and without people trying to marry me, and I can’t weave but you get what I mean hopefully.

Prep group no 3

Hello again. It’s been a while since I’ve posted but not much to report to be honest. We’ve had the third prep group and it was about the medical issues some children in care may face. It was actually quite uplifting as most children are resilient and some overcome their difficult beginnings into this world. I’m not saying that everyone becomes better but it was definitely a more positive message they were giving. One thing that really stuck out is that your child may face prejudice in schools, medical care etc. if they are adopted. They may dismiss any problems, thinking it’s because the child was adopted or was in care, when in reality, it might be something really simple to overcome. I suppose we need to be in the know about what there is out there for our potential child and fight for it. I hope I’m not going to be one of those mothers with a sense of entitlement. It’s more within reason of course!

We have one more prep group and then the home study. I’m going to miss the prep groups – they’ve been really good. I will try and keep in contact with a few of the people there as it’s really important to have mutual support through these trying times.

In the meantime, we’re still waiting for our doctor to complete our medical forms, I’m looking into more volunteering with children just to give me that little extra confidence. I’ve already had some experience with kids but the more, the better I guess!

Prep group

Had the second prep group and it went really well. It was all about loss and attachment and was very emotional for all. I got quite teary as did a lot of people. It seems so strange how you can find out so much about a room full of people in such a short amount of time. The prep groups are really good and makes you reflect on things that you need to do before you go any further in adoption.

Had a bit more homework so we’ve been working on that. Also had a bunch of forms sent to us to complete such as CRB checks, doctor forms, a more detailed application for adoption etc.etc. I can’t tell you how many times I completed my address list but it seemed like loads and loads.

Apart from that, not much else has been happening. Just taking it slowly really and remembering to have time away from thinking/doing/writing about adoption. It’s important to remember to take some time away from the whole thing as it can really play on your mind. So that’s my tip for today. Have fun!