So the social workers of the two separate boys we are interested in have emailed Denise. After a few emails back and forth, the social workers are reading our profiles. We have read one profile of one boy and it’s really sad. I especially felt sad for the parents which I didn’t think I would have done. They have also had a bad upbringing and it’s just so sad to see the same pattern repeating.
Each social worker for each boy has asked the same question: How do you think you could meet the needs of xx? It’s really interesting as we then have to imagine the child being our son. It’s such an abstract thought at the moment. We are trying really hard not to be excited and think about what could be but it is very difficult. It feels as if we are trying to keep a lid on a pressure cooker and keep all the excitement within as we could end up having neither of these boys. I will be very sad if we don’t get either boy but try to reconcile with the idea that perhaps there will be someone else we would be suitable for if this doesn’t happen. It is such a strange situation as on one hand, we feel very close to having a child and on the other, it can feel very far away too!
What is interesting is trying to guess how the social workers will decide on who will be suitable for their child. As both children are very young, it can’t really be matching interests so I wonder what it could be? Obviously, they are looking for the parent(s) who could meet all their needs but what if there are lots of prospective adopters who all say the same thing? If that was the case, would it just be down to the social worker liking one person over the other? I’m sure (and hope) that this isn’t the case and it is down to something more scientific but I really can’t say for sure. All I know is that it feels like we’re applying for a job and waiting to see if we will be shortlisted.
We sent off our blurb about how we could meet each child’s needs and wait to hear. So here we are, biting our nails, hoping that we will welcome a little one into our lives soon. This process has certainly been long but now this feels for real. It’s surreal to feel all these emotions and waiting for others to decide our fate.